Years ago a friend of mine told me a story that changed my whole perspective on dating and attracting women
A bunch of frogs decided to have a race up a huge tower.
Whoever makes it to the top of the tower first will win the race, they determined.
A huge crowd gathered around the little frogs. No one believed the tiny frogs had a chance at making it to the top of the tower.
People from the crowd heckled the frogs with, “You’re way too small to climb that tower. You will never make it!”
Sure enough, heaps of frogs slid off the tower.
The crowd heckled louder, and the rest of the frogs tumbled down – except for one. The crowd continued to berate and snicker at him.
But he slogged his way to the top.
Do you know why?
He was deaf.
Contained within this story is an important lesson about attracting and succeeding with women. I’m going to discuss it in a minute.
But first…
Have you ever noticed that most ladies men see reality different from the average man?
An ordinary man, for example, might perceive a woman as showing little to no interest in him.
But transplant a ladies man’s brain into his skull and he’ll see the same woman as a little pervert who can’t keep her dirty paws off him.
Though, my friend, this is only half the story…
Similar to the deaf frog, most ladies men are blind and deaf to certain facets of reality. (This is a big part of what makes them disgustingly good at attracting women.)
When a woman hisses a crippling putdown, most men feel like she’s pulling their heart out and stepping on it.
But the ladies man eliminates these words from his reality or interprets them as meaning that she’s trying to play hard-to-get because she knows he’s a good catch.
If a ladies man approaches a woman and she demands, “Scat loser!” he doesn’t have an I’m-gonna-cry mentality. Instead, he fails to notice the bitter words flowing from her lips.
Most mortal men have a voice of doubt that snakes into their ears every time they want to push forward with a woman.
If they want to approach a girl, the voice might sneer, “She’s out of your league. She’d never go for you.” If they want to kiss her, the voice of doubt might scream, “She’s not attracted to you! Spare yourself the embarrassment!”
Sound familiar?
The ladies man, similar to ordinary men, has a voice of doubt too.
But because he’s deaf to negative forces, he can’t hear the voice. The only time his hearing improves is when the voice starts saying things that empower him to take action with women.
“Can an ordinary man see reality like a ladies man?” you might be wondering.
Yes, any man can learn to see the world like a ladies man does. The key is to develop the right beliefs for succeeding with and attracting women.
Beliefs create a direction or focus of attention for the mind.
One of my friends, for example, believes women aren’t attracted to him. Because his focus of attention is on women not feeling attraction toward him, he’s always noticing how women aren’t attracted to him.
Likewise, I’ve seen women who looked like they wanted him so bad that they’d have sold their children into slavery to get a piece of him. But he couldn’t see it.
On the other hand, I know a guy barely hovering above five-foot-three whose belly juts out further than his hyperthyroid eyes. He drinks like a fish and stinks like a skunk. To make matters worse, he’s missing a hand.
It used to make me cringe to see him approach women. He’d almost always start off on the wrong foot. But he doesn’t see this. He believes all women want him. Like a high-powered laser beam, he’s always focusing on and looking for every aspect in which women are attracted to him.
But something weird happens in his interactions with women. The first time I witnessed it, it gave me the creeps. (Note: What you’re about to read is an important piece to why ladies men are devastatingly effective with women.)
He takes women from wanting to shoot pepper spray in his eyes to feeling compelled to kiss him. He can mutate a churning stomach into a belly full of attraction.
“But how?” you might be thinking.
There are some deep psychological reasons…
Most people are burden with weak and pliable beliefs. More often than not, when two people are interacting, the person with the weaker belief system takes on the beliefs of the person with the stronger.
What this means for you
A woman might think you’re uglier than a wildebeest. But if you believe she’s attracted to you, she’ll start believing it as well.
Josh Lubens, a relationship expert, writes under the penname Swinggcat and specializes in teaching men how to seduce women.