To enjoy a happy marriage life, people need to understand demand of marriage life. Marriage is notably most amazing experience in both men and women’s life to occur. It the day when many wait for their perfect spouse to lead their reaming life with. But sourly, many are unable to cope with rising tension, stress a married life goes through.
Many are not prepared for life after marriage. Hence, come out of disillusion soon as the wedding and honey moon are over. Then they begin to realize realistic picture regarding married life and responsibilities it come with.
Unable to bear contrasting difference between their fantasy about marriage and real ground reality, many of newly wed get depressive mood. Both will begin to behave arrogantly, and become irritable towards each other. Fight over possibly every kind of issue small, petty to larger issues. With each fight, both differ in opinions. As such condition continues both will start believing they are not made for each other.
They will view each other as competitor rather than husband and wife. Take decision as they felt correct their way. Soon such activities will become a daily routine in their life. Thus, draining them completely and making life miserable.
Such a relationship makes their respective live stressful and directionless. Both husband and wife would then contemplate to leave bond of marriage as better option to save their life from daily dose of stress and tension. They get so soaked up in tension, pressure that they are willing to break free from marriage to safe themselves.
Depression come into spouse experiencing tension in married life. Depression is irregular grief, low mood behavior affecting a person for very long time interval. Different Types of Depression are suffered by various people around the world of different ages. Depression is not easy to beat and take quite an effort.
To come out of such complex situation, I recommend following step needed to safe your marriage along with your mental healthiness.
World does not behave according our wish. And it is not clever to stick set of demands when you see they cannot be realized. Change your thinking and try adjusting to new roles in marriage, even If you had other opinion about it. At least give a sincere effort to make your marriage click. This way you will not feel guilt of being insensitive to your marriage.
It is common for women and men to dream about a perfect marriage life. But world of imagination is not same as real one, and dream rarely culminate in real life. Some couples are so engrossed in their fantasy that they are unable to cope with real truth. It is important for newly weds to concede and accept realistic expectation regarding married life.
Understand you partner, their nature and their right. This approach will help you in understanding your duties toward your spouse. And in turn make your spouse change any misconception about your. In turn start accepting you and appreciating your efforts. Be the first to initiate wellness in your marriage, do not involve yourself in thought of ‘why I need to start being nice, he could start it too’. As fruit of successful marriage is for you to enjoy, you are doing it for your own good.
Mental toughness is needed to tackle issues that are threatening your marriage. Prepare yourself well so you can face any issue head on. Every marriage life faces much issue in every period of its tenure. Even when you are old, husband and wife do have petty quarrel and bad moment. This does not mean you do not love each other nor are enemies to each other. It merely suggests there is an issue that needs to be sorted out.
To make your married life click, you need to make a point to converse any issue running in your mind. As direct communications with your spouse is always beneficial, but remember be polite, cordial and do not run in too many issues at a time. Healthy marriage should incorporate healthy communication between spouses.
Patience is good attribute to have in oneself. It provides you supplement energy need in crisis situation, where need of the hour is wait and persevere. If you have patience, it will allow you to forgive and appreciate your spouse love and affection. Eventually paving way to building a bridge of trust and support in your marriage.
Finally do not starting expecting things to correct themselves over night. Give some time for issue to be settled down and wait for solution to accompany results. Besides, you always have option of seeking counseling if circumstances demand.
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